Jesus: I Speak to You Again

Chapter 106

Mutual Relationships

One of the most important aspects of life is the way we relate to others—our mutual relationships. These relationships manifest everywhere, starting with family, friends, classmates, colleagues, fellow citizens, and even with strangers on the street or in any other setting. If you observe closely, you will notice that your behavior changes depending on where you are and whom you are with. At home, you tend to be more relaxed, allowing yourself to express both love and frustration more openly. With friends, you are more restrained, and with colleagues, even more so. In public, you may not interact at all. Yet, when you travel far from home, even a stranger from your country feels like a neighbor, and you feel an urge to connect, share experiences, and ask about theirs. The further you are from your homeland, the closer you feel to your compatriots.

Despite these changes, you remain the same person in every setting. So why does your behavior shift so dramatically based on your surroundings? Why do you act differently when you are the same individual?

Your varied behavior is determined by your human self, influenced by low vibrations stored in your subconscious. Even though you may not fully perceive these vibrations consciously, they prompt your mind to act differently in each situation. Your animal mind, driven by self-preservation, quickly evaluates the environment and possible outcomes. For example, hugging and kissing a friend as you would a family member may seem inappropriate, and doing so with a colleague could cause problems for your ego. Behaving this way with a stranger on the street could lead to confusion or even aggression. But when meeting a compatriot in a distant land, the reaction is often warm and positive because the environment feels unfamiliar, and the shared connection of homeland removes many of the usual barriers.

Does this mean you are clever in one setting and not in another? No, it means that your behavior is shaped by unconscious attitudes formed through years of experiences, stories, and social norms stored deep in your subconscious. These attitudes become so ingrained that you follow them automatically, like a programmed machine. Only when you are in an unfamiliar place, such as a foreign land, do these subconscious barriers weaken. Hearing your native language in an unfamiliar environment can evoke feelings of closeness and relief, leading you to behave more openly and sincerely, even with people you have never met before.

In these moments, social distinctions—such as status, occupation, and political views—fade away. The things that usually separate people become insignificant, and you are able to connect with others on a more genuine level. However, upon returning to familiar surroundings, these barriers quickly reappear, as your subconscious resumes its protective role, guarding your ego against perceived dangers.

This behavior stems from fear—fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of judgment. The more unfamiliar a situation feels, the more guarded your ego becomes. The more you get to know someone, the less you fear them, and the more love you can show. Love, which comes from the Universal Father, is the opposite of fear. Where there is more fear, there is less love. Where there is less fear, love flows more freely. This is a universal truth that applies to everyone.

Even animals behave this way. When they feel loved, they are peaceful. When they feel threatened, fear takes over, and they become aggressive. The same is true for us. Where we feel safe and free from anxiety, we are more loving, sincere, and open. But where we feel fear and anxiety, our capacity for love diminishes, and we close ourselves off.

This relationship between love and fear plays out in all our interactions. In a loving and sincere family, for example, the human ego feels safe and at peace, allowing it to relax and experience more love. Fear and love are inversely related: the less fear you feel, the more love you can express. By observing your own behavior, you can see this clearly.